You will stop talking to me if I request it

Einstein's demands

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Albert Einstein with his first wife Mileva Marić, 1912. (Photo by: Universal History Archive/Universal Images Group via Getty Images)

By 1914, theoretical physicist Albert Einstein’s marriage to his wife of 11 years, Mileva Marić, was fast deteriorating. Upon the realisation that there was no hope for their relationship on a romantic level, Einstein proposed that they remain together for the sake of their two young sons, Hans and Eduard, but only if she agree to the following list of conditions. Mileva accepted them, but to no avail. A few months later she left her husband in Berlin and moved, with their children, to Zurich. They eventually divorced in 1919, having lived apart for five years.

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CONDITIONS

A. You will make sure:

1. that my clothes and laundry are kept in good order;

2. that I will receive my three meals regularly in my room;

3. that my bedroom and study are kept neat, and especially that my desk is left for my use only.

B. You will renounce all personal relations with me insofar as they are not completely necessary for social reasons. Specifically, you will forego:

1. my sitting at home with you;

2. my going out or traveling with you.

C. You will obey the following points in your relations with me:

1. you will not expect any intimacy from me, nor will you reproach me in any way;

2. you will stop talking to me if I request it;

3. you will leave my bedroom or study immediately without protest if I request it.

D. You will undertake not to belittle me in front of our children, either through words or behaviour.

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Einstein’s handwritten demands